{"product_id":"bad-feelings-paperback","title":"Bad Feelings - Paperback","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/reportcopyrightinfringement.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eReport copyright infringement\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eRoy Schafer\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBad feelings are ubiquitous to human experience. Everyone deals with grief, envy, disappointment, dejection, humiliation, mortification, and anxiety. However, when we consciously push troubling feelings aside and then avoid them, we should be under no illusions that such repression empowers us to lead untroubled lives. The price that we pay, simply, is feeling less alive. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Our attempts to avoid feeling pain manifest themselves in feelings of disconnection and numbness. To make matters worse, bad feelings often bring moralistic self-condemnation that arises unconsciously or even consciously: \"It is bad of you to feel that way!\" \"You're being a nuisance to worry about that!\" \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Many families even elevate mental health to the status of an Eleventh Commandment. They believe that when they have negative feelings and express them, this constitutes behavioral problems. When they begin to feel anxious, glum, or ashamed, they are stricken with guilt or fears of punishment. Their goal is perfect adjustment, and their taboo is the secret forbidden pleasure hidden by pain. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e This book demonstrates how psychoanalytic understanding can reduce the painfulness of negative feelings and increase our tolerance for emotional pain. This work can enable freedom from frightening, vengeful, and guilt-ridden fantasies, decrease reliance on passive and masochistic ways of being, and increase our ability to take pleasure in the body, to enjoy relations with others, the use of one's assets, and to take pride in one's achievements. These changes outweigh the emotional pains that we inevitably suffer by living, and they help us feel that it is worth our while to enjoy a lively existence.\u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eRoy Schafer, Ph.D.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Roy Schafer, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist in New York City. He has written nearly a dozen books on psychoanalysis, among them the noteworthy \u003ci\u003eAspects of Internalization\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eA New Language for Psychoanalysis\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eLanguage and Insight: The Sigmund Freud Lectures at University College, London\u003c\/i\u003e. Dr. Schafer has taught and lectured all over the U.S. and abroad. He lives in New York.\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 184\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.58 x 8.98 x 6.08 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e April 17, 2006\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47356530065657,"sku":"9781590512203","price":37.44,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0789\/2782\/3097\/files\/WGVIdVZTV0d5bTdVN0pWYnRLazVaQT09.webp?v=1769863702","url":"https:\/\/bookscloud.io\/products\/bad-feelings-paperback","provider":"BooksCloud Book Dropshipping","version":"1.0","type":"link"}